Thanksgiving Dinner as a New Divorcée- There's ALWAYS Something to be Thankful for!
By Brittney Baker
Scared. That's the first word that comes to mind when I think of spending this upcoming Holiday Season without my Husband. I've had so much anxiety and stress over it. What will my family say? Will everyone look for him? Will it be awkward and uncomfortable? Thanksgiving is all about being thankful, and while I have so much to be thankful for; its hard not miss what is no more. My approach to this Thanksgiving is building new memories. For the past 7 years, I focused solely on "Us" and how comfortable he would be during the Holidays. Exploring ways to change that has been very difficult. Some advice I can offer is to remember you're not alone. Family will always assist in getting you through the rough times. If Family can't fill that void, allow your friends to. Lean on that support we all have.
My biggest hurdle has been focusing on how he's spending his Holiday season. WRONG MINDSET! It will defeat you every time. Build new memories. I plan on experimenting this year! I'll be trying a new dish (Non Traditional) for Thanksgiving. Might not seem like much, but that simple change has lightened my spirits and gave me something to look forward to. Your faith needs to be stronger than ever during this time. Here are a few affirmations that help me through this time. I say them daily, and they strengthen me:
1. Abundance comes to me from expected and unexpected sources, and I express gratitude for all of it
2. Change and surprise are evident everywhere , I look with delight in it all.
3. Holidays are Holy, joyful, and spiritually driven, I will do my best to display them all.
Enjoy this time of year! Rejoice in the beauty of it all. Realize while you can't erase the memories built, you can always create better and brighter ones.